Ibidun Gbolahan at first meeting will strike you as a happily married woman and so with Voke Omoregie.
Gbolahan is in her mid-twenties and works in one of the new generation banks on the Lagos Island.
As a teenager in secondary, she discovered that the flow of her monthly periods was not consistent and inside of her, she usually felt itchy and uncomfortable.
Medical examinations showed that the scar she had as a result of female genital circumcision that was performed on her as a child was responsible for the condition.
Gbolahan later discovered that she was unable to engage in sexual intercourse because of the scar and no penis could penetrate her vagina.
However, shortly before her wedding, she found a good team of doctors that were able to perform surgery on her vagina to widen the opening; the surgery was partly successful.
While she could now engage in and enjoy sex, she would only be able to give birth through Caesarean Section, and never through the vagina or natural delivery.
For Omoregie, a media consultant in her late thirties and married with three children, her ordeal started on her 13th birthday.
Her 20-year-old sister, Isoken, had come and told her they were going with their daddy and aunty to visit some relatives living in one of the Lagos suburbs.
On getting to their destination, some elderly women came out to welcome them enthusiastically and ushered them into a living room.
Voke, the youngest of the Omoregies was later taken to another room; there, she saw some small bowls of water, a white sheet of cloth and mat on the floor, blade, towel, cotton wool and some other mixtures.
In the room were three women; she was asked to strip. In a state of confusion and innocence, she complied.
Narrating her ordeal to this writer, she said: “I was told to lie on the floor and two of the women firmly gripped my legs down”.
Gbolahan said: “From that moment, it was one of the most unimaginable and excruciatingly painful moments of my life; the eldest of the women cleaned a blade and very small sharp knife.
“They opened up my legs wide and in a twinkle of an eye, I felt this sharp excruciating pain down my vagina; I let out piercing screams and the ground started moving round.
“After the procedure, I was told that I have just been circumcised, that I am now a woman; the women took turns to explain the implications and reasons to me.
“Cutting off some parts of my Clitoris is cultural, a rite of passage and it will also make me not to be promiscuous.
“But, they never told me some of the accompanying negative effects; now, I quarrel with my husband over sex, I loathe having sex; it is not pleasurable and it is almost always a painful “duty’’.
These are some of the untold painful experiences women go through after genital cuttings, and they often carry grave health implications.
The World Health Organisation says that Female Genital Mutilation includes procedures that intentionally alter or cause injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.
It involves the removal of part or all the female external genitalia; they could be done with native knives, blades or even by consistently rubbing the clitoris with lubricants like vaseline or shea butter known to many as “Ori’’.
The practice is mostly carried out by traditional circumcisers, who often play other central roles in communities such as attending to childbirths.
WHO also identifies four different types of female genital cutting, recognised internationally as a violation of the human rights of children, girls and women.
This practice, which also violates a person’s rights to health, security and physical integrity, is a procedure that has no health benefits for girls and women.
According to a UN report, Nigeria has the highest number of FGM cases in the world; this accounts for about a quarter of the 125 million cases identified worldwide.
Oyo and Ekiti states have the most prevalence among the five states with the highest number of FGM cases in Nigeria.
Yet, experts say that this common practice has no health benefits.
Dr Rotimi Adewale, a gynaecologist, says that “FGM which is the removal or damaging of the normal female genital tissue can lead to complications.
dewale said: “These complications include excessive bleeding, wound healing problems, fever, infections, shock and even death.
“The procedures can cause severe bleeding, menstrual and urinary problems, cysts, infections, sexual challenges as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths.’’
Also, Dr Oliver Ezechi, a gynaecologist at the Nigerian Institute of Medical Research, said that infertility could occur as a result of infection contracted during female circumcision.
According to him, the act is usually done with unsterilised equipment that was used for more than one person, thereby predisposing victims to infections.
Ezechi said: “These infections can spread to the uterus and into the fallopian tube and it could block the fallopian tubes later in life, and the girl-child will find it difficult to have babies.
“With infertility caused by such infections, they can only get pregnant through In Vitro Fertilisation.
“The circumcised child may even have problems of what we call `hidden menstruation’, and because the place is already blocked or closed, the bleeding will not flow as it should.’’
Ezechi said the effects of FGM could cause pain to women during labour and child delivery.
He said that the vagina and vulva were made of soft tissues to reduce injury during delivery as they expand for the baby’s head to pass through.
He explained: “The scarred tissues can cause tear during child birth with a lot of bleeding. Some of the tears may even go into the rectum.
“When this happens you have to suture them and the woman may have what we call rectorvaginal fistula, also called obstructed labour.’’
Ezechi said that FGM was still common in Nigeria, especially in the southern part, noting that even educated parents still carry out this act on their children using modified methods.
He also said: “We may not be doing the very worse types like the ones they have in Sudan and Ethiopia, where they cut and suture the genitals.
“What most people do now is that instead of cutting, they use their thumb to gradually press in the baby`s clitoris to blunt it because at that time the child’s cells are very fragile.’’
Dr Taiwo Oguntoyin, a public health officer, said that FGM or circumcision predisposes women to contracting HIV/AIDS.
Ogutoyin said: “Circumcision makes the vagina have scars after healing which can make it tighter and inelastic.
“During sex, the woman is likely to sustain injuries which can predispose her to HIV and other infections.’’
Oguntoyin said that FGM and the absence of the full clitoris could cause painful sex and disharmony in marriage.
Oguntoyin also said:“Some people may eventually have need for surgeries later in life.
“This is especially if the FGM procedure seals or narrows a vaginal opening, the Type 3 Infibulation needs to be cut open later to allow for sexual intercourse and childbirth.’’
Dr Etta Adenekan, a psychologist and women’s rights activist, said the process of FGM puts the female through psychological pain and trauma.
Afenekan said: “It leads to decreased sexual enjoyment and psychological consequences, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.
“There are also lots of unaccounted deaths arising from FGM or circumcision.’’
Adenekan advised mothers to stop FGM as there were many health implications which could affect the girl-child later in life.
She also called on the government as well as medical and health practitioners to educate the public on the dangers of FGM.
She said: “The elimination of FGM is a specific target under Goal 5 of the Sustainable Development Goals, FGM was outlawed by the United Nations in 2012.
“By the virtue of the Violence Against Persons Act 2015, signed into law during the last administration, it is a punishable offence in Nigeria. So, we should all rise and say ‘No to FGM’.
“From the infection, infertility, HIV infections to marital disharmony and sexual dissatisfaction, the effects are quite devastating.
“Summarily, studies have shown that eliminating FGM will also go a long way to improve sexual, reproductive and maternal health.